Day 6 Sat oct 25

Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list below of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.

the journaling part
where do you need to add margin to your life? when have you recently overreacted? what was your real motivation behind it? what decisions have you made today?

Just a note from me!

A note to the people who read here for the good we are trying to do for ourselves, and for the gratitude of those who read to help us on this journey and for the ones who read to try and destroy....
As most of you know, after last nite, I almost gave up this walk with you. BUT what would that really accomplish? Nothing, it would be me giving up the fight I chose to fight and the life I have chosen to walk, and I wont quit, nor hide my blog, because someone who is so insecure, yet again has invaded my personal space, and obviously was afraid of my marriage making anymore forward progress, that she had to try to undermine the work I was doing. A good friend said to me yesterday, when we are working with the lord, the devil will go to no ends to try to destroy. Well, ms thang, I will say thank you today, your actions have made me ever the more determined that what we have is real, and I am very sorry that you feel the need to take other peoples spouses instead of working on whatever it is thats in you, that makes you do it, over and over. Thank you for opening the door for my husband and I to be able to communicate, that yes, you can get on facebook from work, as well as the general area that these blogs are kept. Denial is that river in egypt, and he today verified it can happen from work, and at least facebook wont be accessable soon. well the friends I have on here and facebook, we are a firm group of close friends and believers. This isnt like my myspace, we won't let one angry and jealous, adultress, ruin what we have going here. and really you take all the time to hunt me down, and read me, why dont you just say hi when you are here to read? Thank you for the kick in my butt to DB and LD and trust God even more. Last nite was yesterday, and today is a new day, and I awoke with a brand new strength and courage, With God and my friends here, the devil won't win in our lives. I did my love dare today, and you know what? After last nite, with me doing it, I am sure he will see what truly is, and that is me. You may have won for an evening, but today I play to win for life. you didnt stop me. I will pray for you. I pray you get your own life. One for you and your beautiful boys.Ok my buddies!!!
HERE we GO! onward and upward and thank you lord!!!

Day 5 Friday oct 24

Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from thier perspective only.

the journaling
what things did your spouse point out about you that need your attention? how did you handle hearing it? what do you plan to do to improve these areas?

Day 4 thurs oct 23

Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

the journaling part
what did you learn about yourself or your spouse by doing this today? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?

Day 3 Wed oct 22

Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. Its hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."

the journaling part is this
What did you choose to give your spouse? What happened when you gave it to them?

Day 2 Oct 21

In addition to saying nothing negative about your spouse again today, Do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.


the journaling part of it is this...
What discoveries about love did you make today? What specifically did you do in this dare? How did you show kindness?

Some info for you all

Facebook is hard for me to use, so I check it often I just dont hang there all day. If you need to get me, my email addy is kanascwgrl@wmconnect.com. Please just let me know who you are in the subject line! if you are here, you are my fellow DB'ers, feel free to email me at any time, and if you need me, I also have free long distance and duh have no job so am almost always home!
love to you all!
Traci

The love dare day 1, 10/20/08

I am gonna post this tonite, so anyone who finds me can have it when they are ready to start as we are all in diff times zones. Good luck my friends and I will pray for you all, as I know you will pray for me also.

Todays Dare Day 1

Love is Patient

the first part of this dare is fairly simple. although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. for the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. if the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. it's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.

here is the thought for journaling on this day:

did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate? were you tempted to think disaproving thoughts and to let them come out in words?

The love dare warning

Recieve this as a warning. this forty day journey cannot be taken lightly. It is a challenging and often difficult process, but an incredibly fulfulling one. To take this dare requires a resolute mind and a steadfast determination. It is not meant to be sampled or briefly tested, and those who quit early will forfeit the greatest benefits. If you will commit to a day at a time for forty days, the results could change your life and your marriage.
Consider this a dare from others who have done it before you.

The Love Dare

To do it our not, that is the question. Is it worth it to try and save my marriage? Will it help me learn forgiveness? I know I have friends in similar places as me, who want to save thier marriages, even tho many times a day we wonder why, and if it is worth it. Yes my husband cheated, does that mean I dont love him or want to give up on my family? no of course not. But something has to change, and the only thing I can control and change at this time is me. So I will begin a 40 day journey, with my friends who want to go with me.
With good friends and God, maybe all things are truly possible!